being friendly with a boy you aren’t romantically/physically attracted to and him developing feelings for you isn’t your fault, nor does it mean you were “leading him on”. you are under no obligation to date him.



You can plug in anywhere on the square

God is that you


People are quick to blame video games on why gamers are giant assholes, but I don’t think thats the case at all
I think the “gamer community” created a perfect environment for nerds to become the bullies they always wanted to be


when will it actually be cold I’m not going to be content until I’m freezing to death


me: hey i’m kinda good at this writing thing
*reads other people’s writing*
me: i am a literary potato

But who prays for Satan? Who, in eighteen centuries, has had the common humanity to pray for the one sinner that needed it most?

Mark Twain (via oriental-doggie)

(Source: the-bitchextraordinaire)


how the fuck am i supposed to make life decisions i’m not even sure i want to be alive


White women are paid more than men of colour on average.

Most men in the world are men of colour.

Ergo, white women are paid more than most men.

But they never want to mention that.



you know how much pressure there is on girls to be good at every video game they play, because if they fuck up once there’s going to be a heck of a lot of people saying how girls suck and how they shouldn’t play video games 


(Source: sp00nky)

Artist: chenyakumo

Plays: 141,171


Disney fans trying to explain the difference between Rapunzel/Anna/Elsa/Honey Lemon’s designs like:





a thin girl sings a song about how sexy she is, about how men always want her, about how men find her body sexy, and y’all are like “YAAAS!! QUEEN!! SLAY!!!! THIS SONG MAKES ME FEEL SO GOOD!!!”

but a fat girl sings “boys think fat bodies are sexy” and y’all are all like “Whoa. whoa. This is really heteronormative and is all about male gaze! Why can’t you be confident without relying on men? This is the opposite of body-positive! I dont like this at all!”


no but this is really shitty. because like, thin girls are always seen as sexy no matter what. like it’s just truth. it’s treated as a constant thing- guys don’t have to find you hot for you to be hot, if you’re skinny you’re hot automatically and if guys like you then that’s just a bonus for you. that’s how that’s treated. with all about that bass, it’s like the only example we have in mainstream music of “body positivity” and it’s literally saying that it’s basically only ok to be fat if guys like you. and it’s talking about the specific kind of “big ass big boobs” fat that guys are obsessed with at the moment which is body shaming in and of itself. the whole song is talking about “booty” and basically fetishizing fat bodies. it’s not about “i’m fat and that’s okay” it’s “i’m fat and i can use it to get a man and that’s why it’s okay.” and it is heteronormative and correct me if im wrong but i’m pretty sure i saw stuff on the video being racist. like i’m sorry, i’m having trouble working this thought out intelligibly but this post is trash.

this is the first mainstream body positivity song that has gotten any kind of recognition at all. i’m talking about little girls who have never been told that their body is beautiful, who have never been told that it’s ok to love your body, who have never been told that one day boys will think they are sexy and attractive.

is it perfect? no, absolutely not. it DOES pander to the male gaze in a way that makes me uncomfortable, but to be fair, a lot of songs do that. i’m just saying that when i was a little girl, and i was fat, and i was bullied and picked on, and i was told that boys would never love me because boys would never find my body sexy or appealing, i would really have loved for a song like all about that bass to come out. i would have loved to hear “don’t worry about your size. boys will like your body” because that is something i had never heard before

it’s not just “male validation” — it’s ANY validation at all. that’s something i would really have loved to have. 

i have been morbidly obese my whole life. it was a long road to get to where i am, happy in my body, confident. and it’s a constant struggle every day because learning to love my body is still something i’m doing. there are days i will hate myself. and there are days i’ll love myself. but it’s a constant struggle.

and when i was a kid, it was even worse. i just didn’t believe that i was beautiful. i didn’t believe that i was pretty. i thought my body was disgusting. everyone always told me “dont you want to lose weight so boys will like you? dont you want a boyfriend? dont you want to be skinny? you’ll be so much happier like that” and it was so devastating for me because i lived every day in my body and grew to hate it with every breath i took, every time i ate, every time i walked into a room and perceived people to be staring at me

so here i am, several years later, and a song like ‘all about that bass’ is playing on the radio. a fat girl is singing “don’t worry about your size.” a fat girl is singing “boys will find your body sexy.” a fat girl is giving validation to other fat girls who have literally NEVER been told that they are beautiful or sexy or appealing, who have NEVER been told that boys will find their fat bodies sexy

and it’s not perfect. it isn’t. it IS heteronormative, it DOES pander to male gaze. in a perfect world, we’d have fat positivity songs that showed that positivity comes from the self, and no one else. but it’s a start. it’s a step in the right direction.

and if it makes just ONE young fat girl feel better about herself, if it means that young fat girls can dance around in their room singing along with “don’t worry about your size!” “boys will find our bodies sexy!” “every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top!” then why the fuck is anyone trying to take it away from them

lastly, as someone who has been extremely fat my whole life, i would super appreciate it if people would stop trying to tell me that my feelings are “trash” because i have experienced this fatphobic world as much as anyone else has, and my experiences are valid